Response Style
There are 4 distinct styles of response at the good news of someone else (partner, friend, kid, spouse, etc.):
- Active Constructive
- Passive Constructive
- Active Destructive
- Passive Destructive
Example: The husband/wife returns home at the afternoon:
- Honey! I got the promotion!!
Spouse: (Select one of the following to find your current response style!)
| Active | Passive | |
| Constructive |
Welldonebaby! Amazing news, I knew you will do it! How do you feel now?(looks into her/his eyes) Wait for me to open a nice bottle of wine to celebrate this! |
Ah ok… [pause of several seconds] That’s very good for you. (Gazing at his/her shoes)
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| Destructive |
And now we are going to see you even less? Are you sure you can manage with more obligations?
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Well, we have so many problems and you only care about yourself… |